@tutino, thank you so much for your post. It helps a lot to get a confirmation in our fight against the ants.
I am aware of realistic truth but offten I feel different and it us difficult.
Also, being passive and accepting, sometimes looks like I am not trying hard enough.
It does get easier with time. I learned not to care what people think and I am doing it the best so far.
We will see how it goes further...