It did feel quite huge at first – I think I worried everyone would think I was making some enormous statement for attention, or trying to be deliberately different or something. I actually deactivated/activated again for a while before finally doing it for good (nearly 2 years now!) Each time I went back on it began to feel more meaningless to me, and somehow slowly it lost its allure. I used to spend hours worrying about every aspect of it, it was exhausting. I did try for a while to treat it as a learning space for SA, but I just found it too hard. Facebook is nothing like real life!
I have lost connections with a few people, but this is natural in life. You won’t ever lose the people who really matter. In fact it helped me to see who really mattered…I’ve made new friends through other things too. I think it completely comes down to knowing yourself, and how you work. It just isnt the right space for me.
I also had a similar thing to you in that lots of people from my past kept adding me. I think that can make it quite difficult to evolve as a person. My recovery has meant making a lot of changes and new choices, in all areas of my life, and I’ve needed to look really carefully at what is positive and negative for me, and where I spend my energy. Facebook was only part of the decision.
Just think in real life, if people from your past kept calling round uninvited to your house for a “Hello!” you’d probably feel pretty weird about it – I don’t see why we’re all supposed to feel fine about that online! As I say, it really depends on who you are and how you work as a person. It is true you can just have a profile and not update, and use privacy settings.
I think a good thing is to make decisions from a calm place, and decide how you will do it. Looks like you’ve taken a good amount of time thinking about it, and sounds like you know what it is you want/need to do. You also reserve the right to change your mind!
I can only say that for me it’s been really positive! Hope that’s helpful!