First time posting here so hope I make sense, but my basic question is - how do you know if people are good for you, or worth holding onto, how do you know if its your paranoia and lack of confidence that makes you feel uncomfortable, or that people really are treating you badly and you need to move away from them? Is it a good thing to let those people go and risk starting again, when you find it so hard to make friends in the first place?
As I am recovering, I'm starting to notice a pattern in the people I've chosen as friends - they are pretty narcissistic, controlling, and kind of belittling to me. They aren't liking the changes in me, as I become a little more assertive. They make me feel that I'm becoming arrogant and odd. I often blame these awkward feelings on my social phobias, but maybe sometimes it is actually them and not me?
How do you know?!