In this paragraph in "How You See Yourself and the World Part 1", I'm really bothered by this line that I've marked in bold:
"" If you expect rejection, you tend to hide, avoid, stay silent, and be hesitant. Other people may interpret your behavior as a lack of interest on your part, or to the fact that you are "different" or weird. ""
"Or to the fact that you are different or weird?" I have to say, I'm really disappointed in that appearing in the handout. It's exactly the type of thing that makes people with social anxiety feel terrible! I did not expect that from a therapy program that has rightly striven to assure those of us with this condition that we "have not done anything that strange or embarrassing" (words straight from the "Attitudes" handout).
Being told if I avoid, stay silent, or be hesitant, that people might think I'm different or weird doesn't sound reassuring or helpful, and it certainly doesn't sound like the sensible and encouraging words I've come to appreciate from this CBT program. Even if it were true, it sounds to me like a big ANT.
Sadly, this kind of phrasing popped up several times in the handout, and I couldn't even make myself read them. I'm feeling quite down about my therapy now, just from one handout.
It would be great if these certain parts of this handout would be re-written. I'd also like to know if this bothered anyone else!
Definitely disappointed, even more so because I've come to expect MUCH better from this program. I have been incredibly impressed so far, but this is a big disappointment for me.