Fairly new to the site and forum, currently on week 4. I’m 22 from Scotland, and suffered from SAD since primary school, so about roughly 14 years. I still remember my class mates in primary teasing for always going so easily red (blushing). I became aware I suffered from SAD around 15 months ago, and I had CBT for 3 months last year, but I don’t think it was comprehensive enough as I don’t feel as there has been much improvement.
Without blowing my own trumpet, I feel as if I am a good looking guy, at university, lovely girlfriend and have great friends (whom however I do not see as much as I would like due to avoidance) - which I feel astonishing considering how anxious/nervous I get around people. It’s getting to that stage where I’m months away from graduating and I feel my SA is restricting me passing interviews and enjoying a business graduate role, due to my blushing, shaky lips/frozen face, excess sweating and general uncomfortable feelings - which many of you probably know what it feels like .
I think I have also developed depression over the past couple of years, by just beating myself up due to my SA, not achieving my potential, not enjoying socialising and comparing myself to others who lead normal, happy lives.
It’s amazing how much info is on this site and how much of it makes sense to a SAD sufferer like myself. For people, and specifically Dr. Thomas A. Richards, to know exactly what I’m going through is instantly reassuring Also, I really hope the series can help me overcome my anxiety, as I don’t know what’s next for me if it doesn’t work haha!
Just a couple of questions; should I still have realistic expectations in overcoming social anxiety through solely the audio series and not group therapy? (as it’s too expensive due to the location)
And how do I disbelieve ANT’s that I feel are actually true? For example, I had a presentation today and I really felt/knew I came across nervous and therefore I bet myself up over it, because comparing myself to others, others can present calmly and confidently. So I guess, how do I go about ignoring ANT’s which I feel are in fact rational?
Any help would be great from anyone. Thanks guys