Social anxiety doesn’t automatically mean that you must have problems with presentations, or even self-consciousness in front of groups of people. We have plenty of people who come to the groups who do NOT have problems with presentations. We have many others who do, as you might expect. So this point isn’t an indication of having social anxiety.
If you think about it from one perspective, it’s not weird to NOT have problems with presentations even if you have social anxiety. It depends on what you focus your anxiety on. If one person is worried about intimate, one-on-one interactions, or even small talk, then they might consider a rather impersonal larger presentation to be no big deal. The mind can bend any situation any way.
Pressure and Perfectionism - big ANTs, as you can read from Session 17 in the audio therapy. Here are some parts from that Session:
“Perfectionism always comes along with pressure - 2 negative emotions… The solution here again is a paradox. The more afraid we are of failure, the more we see ourselves as failures… Such pressure only paralyzes me and causes me to become passive and inactive… Perfectionism never solves any problem. It only makes them worse… Striving for perfectionism guarantees you’ll be unhappy.”
Those are all taken straight from the audio portion of the therapy. We discuss the Deserving Statements in that session, also, for good reason.
Yes, take the pressure off yourself. Give yourself, instead, rational, healthy statements. Make your own deserving statements if you need to. Use that handout also.
In a way yes, all of this involves the ideas discussed in the Fighting Paradox. Don’t fight, resist, pressure. None of that gets you to where you want to be. You can be aware and still not choose to fight, resist or pressure yourself. It does take time, and the practice of the therapy, and the choice to follow in this way rather than the other.