My contribution to this must be; start to expect that things will be good, that you manage to cope, and not only coping, but that people will like you, that you come across as a talented and nice person.
I have found that even though I am doing CBT en other kind of mindfulness I did not expect to do well. It was not that I thought deeply about it. It was more of a reflex. It was actually hard to spot because it was so ingrained. Not outwardly, no, I guess nobody noticed as i am quite outgoing and fun, until I have my triggers and get anxiety.
So now I have started to expect to do well deliberately. This is such a relief for me that I cannot praise it enough.
"FeelGooder you are scheduled for a meeting next week..".not so long ago...Oh my god, electroshock feeling thru my body, a ton of what ifs etc...
Now I expect to do ok. I deliberately "change channel". I choose positive happy thoughts. Like, maybe I get something positive out of this meeting, better price, better deal, better products, larger network etc.
Even though I might have a funny turn or two, I am not so bothered about it as before. No before I could dwell on all kind of things for weeks and even months. Running a mental movie over and over again. Yeah, I even brouht some mental popcorn and mental soda and just let the tapes play over and over again. With bad awful feelings accompanied. This must end. This habbit to ruminate on socalled bad experience. Must practice to be more resilient. Important, at least in my case.
Actually I think the whole CBT is starting to take it place. I feel stronger and stronger every day in every way;)