that there is a varying degree of truth to ants doesnt mean they are being accurate or rational. like the ants handout says, ants tell you the untruth in a variety of ways, like exaggeration, catastrophizing, ... the biggest of which might just be "focus", that is, they will put your focus exclusively on bad things and forgo everything that works in your favor.
you are very early in the therapy still, you will find this to become more clear later down the road.
as for your points specifically. it is true that people in general like to be around people who give off a positive "vibe", that is, have and emit positive emotions. however, even "winners" have fear and other negative emotions, they just deal with it very differently.
people are not as judgemental about anixety as you think, for the most part they dont typically care a lot. yes some of them may avoid you when they feel it very strongly from you, but you are very likely overexaggerating the extent to which it is noticable to other people. there is a whole handout on this, "the social anxiety automatic cycle".
fear and love do coexist. there might be a lack of love in you, because your mind isnt trained to focus on good emotions. youre not evil, you need to cultivate your good emotions so they grow stronger. you do this by focusing on things are good. this is coming up in later sessions.
so maybe youre weak now, in some ways, like most people are. not in all ways tho, it takes a lot of courage and strength to hold down a job while having social anxiety. just going there once probably takes more courage than the average person has to muster during a month. thats the strength and energy you then lack in other areas. it is the thinking and feeling anxiously that is taking away this power that you actually have and leaves you feeling depleted.
and, who cares what that person thinks? you see, here the ants are lying again because its just not that important if that women likes you or not, and who knows what she actually thinks of you. just because you think youre weak does not mean that everyone else thinks the same. also, luckily, not everyone has to like you. its perfectly fine if some people do not like you, and you dont have to like everyone either.
hope i could help. do stick with it, you can have magnificent results from the therapy, its too early tho to have great exspectations, just carry on and in a couple of weeks or maybe earlier you will see first improvements. best of luck