Hello guys, and hello to the professionals in this forum,
I am a 22 year old male, I've been a cigarette smoker for 6-7 years, and the last few months a weed smoker.
Ive had SA in different forms since i can remember myself transferring schools in the 2nd grade. The level of anxiety rose since ive discovered my sexual problem, but my SA is sometimes not so overwehelming and i can live a relatively bareable social life.(still with anxiety)
I have been experiencing lower back pain for the last 4-5 years, have been identified with 2 disk bulges in my lower back. (A common problem that a big percentage of world population have).
I've had sex with about 11 different girls, but could never reach an orgasm. It was always only 1 or 2 attempts with every girl.
I am able to reach an orgasm through porn, but i can feel myself during sex so disconnected from the situation that all im thinking is about is what i should do, instead of what i want to do.
I dont feel almost any sexual desire in the act itself, and in everyday life i have an urge to masturbate but rarely to have sex. Also i can feel my mind is playing tricks on me to make the girls i am dating less attractive to me. Finding the bad qualities in looks and character, while i am putting on a kind of a mask to avoid an authentic relationship(as a result of SA), so i dont develope a big attraction or feelings usually to these girls.
I do have an erection usually in sex, depending on the anxiety level, but its a 90% one and not a 100%.
Ive always felt that there is a corolation betwin the 3:
1 social anxiety
2 being unable to connect to partners and reach an orgasm.
3 back pain
I think that When my SA rises, my back pain rises, and then i have less sexual desire.
Could you help me make some sense out of this?
- i am looking for a timing to stop smoking cigarettes, when will be a recommended time through the therapy?(just started)