I facilitate an SA therapy group in CT and find the experience very fulfilling. However, there is one matter that continues to be a source of frustration and I'm not sure if there's any more I can do about it. It's the very inconsistent attendance at my meetings. As you may know, the success rate of a group like this is largely dependent on people making the regular commitment, but also from the bond they form once the group gets going. It's very hard for bonds to form when it's a different mix of people every week.
I always tell people that I fully understand that this is a huge time commitment, and that life sometimes gets in the way of their attending every time, but to join they should put in their best effort to come weekly. And they pretty much always agree. And yet, every week a number of people cancel, and rarely for anxiety-related reasons. Their reasons are usually legitimate, unexpected things that came up. But then I'm stuck trying to explain to the group why we're short on people yet again. And nobody really gets to know each other. It wasn't always like this.
I don't really think I can do any more than I have to address the matter. It's been suggested that I be more blunt when talking about it, but I fear that will drive people away and I'll have no group at all. I want to be seen as understanding when things happen, but my group suffers. Any thoughts on this? I've become rather obsessed with it!