I got married in 2012 when i was about 23 years old on the repeated requests of my mother and father and younger brother. They all wanted me to marry a girl who was our relative and whose brother had earlier married my elder sister.
I first of all blatantly rejected the marriage saying i do not want to marry. then my mom using her tactics told me that there is a lot of burden on her at home and that she dearly needed a helping hand in the form of my wife. I agreed on her constant insistence but said that i would not marry this relative of mine my shit ass brother used to say as i remember " Wats the problem with you man this girl is a decent and a beautiful girl I would have married her if i were in your place. I told him to go on marry her i dont want her and then he would quickly add but i cant marry her because you are elder than me , what would the people say. My mother was the main force behind this thing. I rejected this wedding to the core, when my father came to know of this he too went on to insist me to marry her.
I mean every shit of this was planned and i was not even informed of it but my younger brother was in wtf!!!
Somehow they managed to convince me through their tactics that i was too stupid not to understand. ( I advise all of you to consult many good married friends on your wedding decisions not only family members )Now when the marriage succeeded I decided to show full love to the girl who had married me and not to let her know that i initially didn't like her. HONESTLY speaking when your wife is not beautiful you dont happen to give her full love and attention that she deserves no matter how much you try. Then we had our first baby girl and a year later I started a job as a teacher at a school and earned upto 16000 rupees monthly and would return the money to my father who had asked me to deposit my earnings with him. I would take upto 5000 for my self, although we are in the upper middle class on economical scale still my dad wanted my money i dont know why. I never minded and didnt even bring this issue up. From then onwards i had to deposit all my earned money with him .
I at one time had 60,000 rupees which i gave to my father 30,000 at another instant and again 30,000 at another instant and then 40 thousand at another instant all this along with my monthly salary from school.
Now I am currently jobless as i have started my education , I am doing my MS and its not possible to do a job along with it.
My younger brother is now an engineer and got upto 120k rupees by selling his card to a contractor and later found a job at a university where he visits on Saturdays and gets 12k rupees monthly.
He keeps his money and is not bound to deposit it with my father my mother says otherwise but i dont believe her anymore.
Then he got lucky and found a job in middle east getting more than 120k pakistani ruppes per month. He still has a few weeks to finally leave for middle east.
Now the real Problem.
My mother is looking for a girl for him on his insistence. She told me that he wants a very beautiful girl to be married to and that she is looking for such a girl.
Now she has found one and according to her she is very beautiful and very young ( unlike my wife ).
Now what bothers me day and night is the question. Why did they ignore my cry for a beautiful wife why are they now so crazy for finding a beautiful girl for my brother ???????
Now after many years I came to know that actually when my wife's brother's marriage was being decided at that time my father in law told my father that your child must also marry my daughter. Although there were much better marriage proposals for my sister than this one but my father and mother foolishly decided that since the proposal is from our relatives in village this proposal is the best one
So to keep my sister's marriage in place I was put forward as a sacrificial animal.
I feel so sad right now that i cant express it.
i feel like being used by my mother and father.