You might already read my posts in which I complain that I can't get a girlfriend. I am still struggling with this, but I believe I made some progress. Some people might argue that this is a topic for dating forum, but I don't think so as all this is cause from years with my social anxiety.
Lately, I spoke to few people from this forum and they helped me with their personal experiences. I started moving on and practicing conversation skills trying to become more comfortable around girls. It is moving very, very slow and I often get very frustrated.
. A lot of people told me I am good looking and wander why I am single. I am not sure if they are honest but I am afraid someone will think I am gay as that is big problem here.
Few months ago, a girl I barely knew from past and haven't seen 2 years, actually approached me in the club. i was very drunk but still I couldn't talk normally to her. She was drunk too and she told me basically that she likes me. I felt even worse knowing all that and not asking her out or at least phone number.
I felt I blew it and I felt guilty and depressed for a month and finally forget it. Until it happened again 2 months later in the same club. I did a little better, I even managed to say a joke. But, in the end, all useless. I run away at one point.
Since then, I was thinking about all that. I thought, it is clear she will not reject if I ask her for a date. I was drunk last 2 times but I will see her somewhere and ask her out. So simple...
Today, I went to a mall with a friend and I met her a few of her friends in the elevator. First I panicked and pretended I don't recognize her. Terrible, I know... Then she said hi and I couldn't look at her. I said hi looking at my feet. Even worse, there were mirrors in the elevator everywhere, so where ever I look, I saw her face.
Two hours later, I met her in one shop and she looked sad and just walked by me. I feel like a terrible person.
So, this was a setback I know. How can i expect it will not hit again in similar situation?
And, the reason could be my obsessing with this girl from the time i saw her in the club. i really like her.
I am aware I should forget about expectations, but they are in my head all the time. I go out everyday, hoping to speak to attractive girl and become a little more comfortable. I don't make to do it very often.
The Ants about time passing by and me getting old are getting me all the time. I feel like i have to urgently do something. And my friends keep telling me that I should stop thinking about my hobbies and start working on getting a girlfriend. Like I am not aware that is more important.
What do you people think about this? Can someone with experience give me some concrete advice. Please, I am desperate